Taken for granted (11/28/11)

Being taken for granted can never in any way be fun, but what does that even mean?

If you’re in a relationship and you notice some of these in the way your partner treats you, then you are unfortunately being taken for granted.

• You’re always the one who needs to understand things; who needs to adjust and conform to your partner’s needs
• You are easily charmed by your partner’s apologies even if he does something that is truly heart-breaking. You actually have to convince yourself to stay mad, but let’s face it. That doesn’t last for more than a few hours.
• BUT, if you’re the one who did something even remotely close to being wrong, you need to practically beg and cry for your partner’s forgiveness
• You always feel guilty even though you’ve done nothing wrong whatsoever
• You’re always there for your partner when they need you, but they’re never there for you when you need them
• You already feel a cycle whenever you fight. For example, when your partner is upset, you apologize and cry until he forgives you. When you’re upset, your partner gets mad, then still YOU apologize and cry until he forgives you
• You already feel tired and you somehow know that you are being taken for granted. Know what’s happening here? You’re instincts are telling you to run while your heart is begging you to stay
• You are the only one who exerts effort and gives a crap about keeping your relationship intact
• YOU ARE NOT HAPPY

Now, that last one is crucial. A lot of people may argue or even blame themselves for being taken for granted. That is just plain wrong. Your partner is supposed to help you improve, not put you down. If you are not happy, then what’s the point of having a relationship? This concept is often forgotten when the heart suddenly decides to be happy-go-lucky.

A lot of people should realize that the positives of a relationship should overcome the negatives greatly for it to work. Loving someone can never be free of problems, but it’s not supposed to always be like that. It’s also supposed to uplift you and make you a better person. It’s hard to open your eyes to the truth because it is sure to hurt like a humongous slap in the face. God knows I still haven’t, but I’m praying for the time when my strength is enough to face the facts.

Happy? Satisfied? Stay.

Always lonely and depressed? LEAVE.

It can simply be said, but to be done? I can assure you that it is hard as hell.